It can really become a struggle to be with or maintain a relationship with a depressed Aries man. The experience will even affect your own mental health. Indeed, depression will alter the core characteristics of an Aries man…makes him someone unbearably negative or obstinate.
Without excusing the behaviour, be patient and understand depressed Aries man is not at the core of who your man is. He wants to be free of this person.
Actually, by understanding traits of depressed Aries man and knowing how to respond, you can support your Aries man without threatening the relationship or your emotional wellbeing.
He Can Be More Irritable
Aries man with depression is more irritable on average than normal. He can fly off the handle or have a short fuse, moody and touchy. Often had more anger issues and struggled with being “too serious” about the subject of depression.
Typically, men born of Aries often hide depression because they see it as a sign of weakness, but the symptoms tend to seep out in the form of irritability and fatigue.
He Look for More Distractions and Can Seem Disinterested or Mentally Aloof
An Aries man with depression tends to seek more distractions, which can be a problem if those “distractions” include alcohol and drugs. It also means more time might go by before he feels comfortable having the depression “coming out” conversation. He also uses distractions to remove himself from the pain of depression. This can make him seem disinterested or oblivious.
You can help him by encouraging positive distractions and guiding him away from the negative ones. You can even be one of those positive distractions on occasion.
Neutral Things Might be Interpreted in a Negative Way
Aries man has a very competitive nature and when depressed, nice statement about someone or something will set up a series of negative filters…such as an insult or affirmation of their negative beliefs. Even if you think you have answers, they can turn your answers around and turn them into problems of their own.
The best approach is to choose your words carefully. Tell him exactly what you mean and explain why what you are saying is positive. If his response seems like an attack, resist the instinct to be defensive. This is vital because attacking back can exacerbate his depression. Stay calm and ensure he knows exactly what you are trying to express.
Depressed Aries Man Might Feel Inferior or Unworthy of your Attention
Because depression tends to affect Aries man’s sense of worth, it can make him believe he does not deserve love. In this emotional space, love relationship becomes a chore, it’s viewed as yet another problem rather than a solution from depression’s parasitic grasp.
If you feel your Aries man is afflicted with this attitude, be patient. Show him he deserves love that will free him and make his life better rather than becoming another burden.
He Does Not Want to Be Depressed
Depression is not a choice. If a depressed Aries man had a choice, he would choose to be rid of it.
One of the most hurtful things you can do to him is say it is his fault, that he could choose to be better if his will or character was stronger. Aries Men notably have a responsibility to try to overcome their symptoms so they don’t negatively affect the ones they love. Even the strongest men, however, are not immune to illness and cannot cure it alone.
If he hurts you, you should know he most likely did not intend to hurt you, knowing this will allow you to be more patient and understanding.
What you can do about a depressed Aries man is to help him the much you can but don’t Assume It Is Your Fault. When he says something, negative or seems disinterested in the relationship, it’s hard not to think it’s because of you. But remember, you did not cause it. Buffer Stress by Making Space for Yourself. Because depression can feel like a third person in the relationship, you might need a healthy amount of space. This can alleviate the irritability issue mentioned earlier.
When you fall in love with a depressed Aries man, no obstacle seems too large. Depression can threaten a relationship, but couples can overcome it by understanding the illness and knowing how to respond to various situations.